All healthy relationships are built on trust. It forms the foundation on which feelings of safety and security rest. It validates the belief that the other person appreciates the connection and sees it as something valuable. Trust breeds confidence. But it can also be broken. And once the damage is done, it’s not always easy to regain the trust you once had… though, it’s not impossible. With commitment and consistency, you can rebuild trust and...
How Solid Boundaries Builds Better Trust In and Can Repair Your Relationship
Some people hear the word “boundary” and only think of it as a restriction of their freedom. But quite the opposite is true. Boundaries are about safety and protection. Think about the boundaries you deal with in everyday life – traffic laws, sports rules, work regulations, medicine administration, tool and appliance operations, and toxicity warnings, to name a few. These boundaries help you to stay healthy and safe under various circumstances....
Betrayal Trauma: First Steps to Facing the Truth and Finding Relief
Betrayal trauma is the direct result of disloyalty and a violation of trust. It is an interpersonal trauma that shatters your reality – the way you viewed your life and the people closest to you. It causes feelings of profound devastation – numbness, inability to trust, shame, shock, self-blame, or withdrawal. But it also leads to outbursts of anger and rage, irritability, anxiety, unhealthy eating patterns, or an increased need to control...
Betrayal Trauma: Why Therapy is a Vital Part of Healing
Betrayal is a violation of trust. It’s an act of disloyalty, a deception, a breach of confidence. Betrayal comes in many forms. In a relationship, it most often means that one partner had an affair or committed another act of unfaithfulness. Betrayal trauma is the direct result of this violation of confidence and failure of loyalty. But it isn’t so much the act of infidelity that causes the deepest and most lasting damage. It’s the profound...
Neuroplasticity: How Addiction Alters Your Brain and Why Recovery is Possible
Your brain is a flexible, inventive, and responsive organ. It is designed to accommodate fundamental and rapid changes through learning experiences. And it has the amazing potential to compensate for injury. This changeable and resilient quality is called neuroplasticity. All learning processes begin here. For example, when you participate in new behavior, practice new skills, or explore new thoughts more and more neural pathways form. Each...