Games are supposed to be fun. Today’s technology keeps you climbing levels, rescuing captives, and creating worlds for as long as you can stare at the brightly colored screen and grip the controller. But lately, it may seem that all that’s being controlled is you. Games aren’t supposed to steal your time and wreck your relationships. They aren’t supposed to use your imagination and their mind numbing graphics to draw you away from reality and...

How do you feel about Facebook? Honestly? Does the blue background and the white logo emblazoned across the screen excite you? Is that lower case “f” widget calling to you again and again from a minimized screen on your desktop at work? Do your spouse and kids groan every time you pick up your smartphone? Yes? Well then, Facebook is probably a bit too important to you. Here are some ways to start dealing with that. Admit it, you love...

Addiction is a disease of uncontrollable need. The cravings rule. Drugs, alcohol, illicit sexual activity, gambling, or whatever an addict craves, simply smothers thoughts of other people and their needs. A life driven by addiction is characterized by dishonesty and destructive behavior that far outweighs any capacity to be other-oriented. No person, goal, value, or emotion overrides the pursuit of the high. Addiction kills understanding. It...

What do you know about “brainspotting”? It sounds like a serious problem, or maybe even a disease, but it’s actually a highly effective, research-based treatment solution for many people in psychological and physiological pain. Brainspotting is a relatively new treatment and one of the fastest growing mental health developments of its kind. After serving his clients with EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy for some...

You know you should get up. The clock on your screen was supposed to remind you to only spend a few minutes surfing, gaming, posting, clicking, and chatting. Instead you barely glanced at the clock and now you’re alarmed to find that letters on the clock are no longer the same: “PM” is now the wee hours of the “AM”… and you still want to keep going… just a few more clicks. That’s internet addiction. You know you should get up, log off, unplug....

Do you wonder how you could have gone so far? Looking at the havoc wrought on your life, your relationships, and your self-esteem by your sex addiction, are you struggling with devastating shame? How in the world can you get through this? You probably knew that, eventually, your double life would catch up with you. But you might not have known how intense the shame would be. To go on, you’ll have to learn tools to manage shame as part of your...